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= F.U.C.K. - Fucked Up College Kids - Born Jan. 24th, 1993 - F.U.C.K. =
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In Response
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In response to Mr. "chick-flick" hater...
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Coming from the other end of the pasture, I can sympathize with the plight
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of the expectations suddenly encountered with the sappy love stories and
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romantic storylines. While women suffer from more or less the same type of
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unrealistic expectations of a different nature, I will first explain to a
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lesser degree of the reasoning behind the meet-me-at-the-top-of-the-Empire
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State-building type of psychology.
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As with anything, girls are socialized into the role-playing type of
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pretending at an early age. Guys, were you ever asked to play "house" as a
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child? (I'd talk about the "doctor-nurse roles, but what they evolved into
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later in life has no bearing on the innocence of children). Girls played
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with dolls, Barbies, and other pink frilly-boxed toys.
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Girls were taught by this role-playing to dream or fantasize about the
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future. Children's stories emphasize this. Remember Cinderella and her
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Prince Charming who went to every household in the land to find his true
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love, or Snow White under the evil of the stepmother? What other
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role-models did little girls have to place their attentions on?
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Where do you think expectations begin for the importance that is placed on
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the nature of a spontaneous, unique marriage proposal? Believe me, every
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possible romantic outcome was at least touched upon and dreamed about.
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Even the wedding day has been fantasized about from an early age. I
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understand that it doesn't hold the same importance to men as you were all
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blowing up G.I. Joe men and chasing ships with Star Wars figures while most
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girls dressed their Barbies and had Ken take them out on their dream dates
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(and I do stress most girls, as I personally hated Barbies and owned only
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the one that a hapless relative happened to give me for a birthday or
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something like that). It is a time in our lives that has been formed from
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the early stages of a girls childhood.
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So rest assured, my dear men, that the "look" you get when viewing a
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"chick-flick" with your girlfriend may have nothing to do with you
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personally, but stems from the hundreds of Disney movies watched and fairy
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tales bought as a child. I am certain the "chick-flick" has as much
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reception from men as the silly love songs played on the radio (how many of
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you men out there really hate Chicago and Journey simply for this reason?)
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Now that I have brushed upon why these feelings are developed, I do want to
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agree to some extent with my little "chick-flick" hater that romance
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comedies and sappy love stories are somewhat unrealistic. Learned well
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into the psychology 101 semester, these stories only tell the beginning of
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these romantic, hot-to-trot couples. Nothing is said about two years down
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the line, or six months, or even the following week. As heartfelt as the
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ending of "Pretty Women" was and the "hooker-with-the-heart-of-gold"
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routine, (and speaking about this movie because it was previously
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mentioned), doesn't anyone think that because she was a hooker, it won't
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cause any problems for the millionaire and the socialites that he
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identifies with? Or that she will put up with his pretentious friends and
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actually enjoy the snobby crowd? Possibly, but both extremes simply showed
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a need to escape from the present situation (even Bill Gates has to get
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tired of the same routine over and over again). So as unrealistic as it
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may seem, not altogether impossible.
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Romance, however, doesn't have to include rooms of roses, or helicopter
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rides, or having your sailboat in the middle of a New York street.
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Something simple and unexpected is all that is realistically desired. It's
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where we women suddenly become an obligation to fulfill that puts us on the
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defensive. "Oh, I took you out last week for an expensive dinner, so why
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should I give you a hug today?" or "I guess since it is your birthday, I
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should probably take you out." We don't want to feel like what you have to
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offer us is out of settling, finality or obligation. We also like to be
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reminded often that these things haven't changed.
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Women thrive on the smallest, most insignificant gestures that say to us
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that you are thinking about us. Not much effort is required to walk into a
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jewelry store and pick up the first thing in sight, but a little note to
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say "I love you" or an unexpected kiss, or a walk around the block can be
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enough to keep us satisfied without you men feeling "required" to be any
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certain way.
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Also, what are the major components involved within a major romance movie
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anyhow? Pursuit above all other women to prove interest, attentiveness to
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show the interest is maintained, and connectedness to show there is no fear
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of commitment. If your woman is asking "why don't you do this for me?",
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then there is probably a reason why. As I've said before, it doesn't take
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much to show your lady that she is important to you. Plus, the less
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importance shown to us as to where we are in our man's life, the more
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important these sappy-lovey dovey-romance movies have on our lives.
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Something simple that is guaranteed to receive a response and is NEVER said
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often enough is the words, "you are beautiful". Not "you look nice," or
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"you look good," or "you are pretty," but "you are beautiful". There is
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not much more that will receive as big a response, even if she is hesitant
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to receive the compliment.
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Even so, as painful as the standard is for men to act romantic and go above
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and beyond the call of duty for their significant other, the standard for
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women is much higher (even excluding the emotional circumference and
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insecurities women already endure). While men are expected to behave
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romantically, women are expected to look romantic at all senses.
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Men, we know as well as you do that for the most of us, when we go into the
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dressing room of Victoria's Secret, we do not suddenly turn into Stephanie
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Seymore or Frederique. It is just not possible (as much as many of you
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would like it to be). Somehow the garter just doesn't fit as well as the
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model, or the bustier is a little too tight. For some women, there is
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nothing to fit into the bustier that will make them look like the picture
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in the catalogue.
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It wouldn't be as bad, except for the fact that now women have a standard
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to fill about looking like the model in the ad. We don't. We know it.
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It doesn't help that you men spend so much time looking at these models,
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whether it be in the catalogue, in a music video, on the big screen or live
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at the strip bars. Even general casual conversation typically involves
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some part of a woman's anatomy. We now feel that you all have visions of
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Cindy Crawford or Jennie McCarthy running through your minds (or the
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pictures strapped to your face) while you make love to us "common folk".
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We also don't have the luxury of airbrushing and computer graphics in bed
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to hide our little imperfections. And this is not supposed to make us
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insecure?
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I will mention this again for emphasis sake: little things make the world
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of difference.
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- spyder
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