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COMMUNICATION SKILLS "GAMES"
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The following is a series of "games" which have been found
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quite useful in helping "a bunch of interested people" learn to
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communicate! with each other, taking them one further step
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towards forming the "group mind" necessary to work together as a
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coven in circle.
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Monitor's Notes:
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There are a few brief rules which must be observed in order to
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make these games more productive for the participants. These
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are:
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1. NOTHING which is said during the games may be discussed
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outside the games without the consent of ALL parties
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involved in the subject. This is enforced by personal
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honour only, but must be stressed at the onset of the
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series.
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2. Everyone's attention should be on the two people involved in
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the conversation. No off-side comments or conversation will
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be tolerated.
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3. Each step of the series MUST be accomplished in the exact
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sequence necessary. Example:
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Person 1 - "Tell me something you like about me."
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Person 2 - "I like the clothes you choose."
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Person 1 - "Thank you."
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It is the Monitor's main task to see that each step is
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performed before going on to the next. The first step is
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Person 1's opening statement or question. Step two is
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Person 2's response. Step three, Person 1's acknowledgment.
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In the sequences with Person 1 asking (or stating) two
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communications, the steps are as follows: Person 1 opens
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with "Is there" or "There is", Person 2 respond with "yes"
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or "no". If "no", then Person 1 acknowledges, and moves to
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the next person. If "yes", then Person 1 opens, Person 2
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responds with "yes", Person 2 continues with statement or
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question asked for, then Person 1 acknowledges (or answers,
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whereupon Person 2 acknowledges).
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Without going into gory detail, the steps are similar in the
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games where Person 1 opens with "There is something I would
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like to tell/ask you." Person 2 responding with "Would you
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like to ask me now?", etc.
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4. The word WHY, either as question or as statement is NOT
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ALLOWED! There are too many defense mechanisms built-in to
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this word for productive answers to be given or understood.
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5. For any answer requested in the first five games, the
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answer-er has three options...They may tell the truth, they
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may lie, or they may refuse to answer. All must be
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accepted. In HOT SEAT only, are there only two options...In
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answering the questions you may lie or you may tell the
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truth, but you may not refuse to answer.
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6. Last, and most important...JUSTIFICATION OF REASONING OR
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ACTIONS IS DISALLOWED! This is the most judgmental ruling
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on the part of the Monitor. It is up to the Monitor alone
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to determine whether and answer is a statement of fact, or a
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defensive maneuver. This is the hardest part, so be alert.
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Finally, when in the course of the circular nature of things the
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Monitor comes due for a turn, Monitor-ship should be turned over
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to any other member of the group, and may change from turn to
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turn, depending on who is participating and who is Monitor. This
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can be accomplished with a simple "Stop", and something akin to
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the following:
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"Joe Schwartz, I designate you Monitor for the duration of my
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turn."
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With Joe S. returning Monitor-ship in a like manner when the turn
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is ended.
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The Games are i lustrated here in more detailed "script-form" so
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that you may understand the course of events in each. All should
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be seated in a circle so that while one person is talking all the
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others will be able to see the speaker, as well as all being able
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to see the Monitor. Anyone wishing to get the Monitor's
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attention may raise a hand, or say "Excuse me", but "Stop" is
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reserved as the Monitor's code-word.
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Note: It is acceptable, on the Monitor's decision, to clarify
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an answer if the person receiving the answer does not
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understand, in any of the games.
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GAME 1 - FLATTERY:
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P1: "Tell me something you like about me."
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P2: "I like your hairstyle"
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P1: "Thank you. Tell me something you don't like about me."
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P2: "I don't like your use of the word "socie-cal"".
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P1: "O.K. Tell me something you like about me."
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P2: "I like the way you have with animals."
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P1: "Thank you."
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GAME 2:
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Option 1:
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P1: "Is there something you would like to tell me that you have
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not previously told me?"
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P2: "Yes."
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P1: "Would you like to tell me now?"
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P2: "Yes, I always feel left out when you do xxx thing."
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P1: "Thank you."
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Option 2:
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P1: "Is there something you would like to tell me that you have
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not previously told me?"
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P2: "Yes."
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P1: "Would you like to tell me now?"
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P2: "No."
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P1: "Thank you."
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Option 3:
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P1: "Is there something you would like to tell me that you have
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not previously told me?"
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P2: "No."
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P1: "O.K."
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GAME 3:
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P1: "Is there something you would like to ask me which you have
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not previously asked me?"
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P2: "Yes."
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P1: "Would you like to ask me now?"
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P2: "Yes. How is it that when someone rings the doorbell, the
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first word you say is "damn"?"
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P1: "I don't know. Wait, yes I do know...the doorbell always
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disturbs my concentration on what I'm doing at the time."
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P2: "Thank you."
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As with the previous game, Options 2 and 3 apply also.
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GAME 4:
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P1: "There is something I would like to tell you that I have not
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previously told you." (Note: Make something up, if
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necessary)
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P2: "Would you like to tell me now?"
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P1: "Yes. It concerns me that you don't seem to be getting
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enough sleep."
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P2: "All right."
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Options 2 and 3...
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GAME 5:
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P1: "There is something I would like to ask you that I have not
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previously asked you."
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P2: "Would you like to ask me now?"
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P1: "Yes. Where do you go when you get angry and storm out of
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the apartment?"
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P2: "I go for a walk in the park." (Monitor's note...watch out
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for "I go for a walk in order to/because/so I can...these
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are justifications)
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P1: "Thank you."
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Options 2 and 3...
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GAME 6 - HOT SEAT (ORACLE):
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One chair in the room is designated the "Hot seat". One at a
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time, each participant sits in this chair and in rotation, each
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of the other people ask them one question, to which there MUST BE
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A REPLY. Remember, you can tell the truth or you can lie.
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These are the "Comm. Games" as they are at this point. Names
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could be assigned to the intermediate four, and some temporary
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rules may be agreed upon at the start of each game, with the
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consent of ALL PARTIES.
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We suggest that these games be played through from the first to
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the last with only short breaks between them, in order to
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maximize the effect. Playing them one at a time in consecutive
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class sessions, or on separate days, seems to lessen their
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effectiveness. One class session or gathering should be
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scheduled following the series to discuss the feelings of the
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"Players".
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ENJOY!!!!
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........Kyri Comyn, Hernesgaard
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